Hey peeps!!! How have your weekend been so far??? Yup, pls check your emails...we have reply to them!!!

We promise u on our last post that we are posting a :

" HOW TO...End a relationship the right way..."

so...here goes...

Breaking up is hard to do but do it properly and it'll be easier for both of u to move on.

1. The first thing to remember is that u should avoid hiding behind texts or emails, meet face-to-face instead. Agree on a time and place where u can talk openly and without distractions.
2. Your partner is likely to express strong feelings. If he does, stay calm and listen rather than argue.
3. Allow enough time for both of you to talk about how u feel, but don't let it drag on unnecessarily.
4. Explain your reasons, but accept the possibility that, no matter what u say, your partner won't be OK with your decision - so be kind, but strong.
5. Don't try to be friends immediately afterwards. This can blur the boundaries, making it more difficult to have a clear defined ending and leave him/her confused about where he/she stands.

Yeah...so that's it...its not as easy as it sounds...but try it...and u will feel happier...

Stay tuned for next post and keep the emails coming in!!!!

XOXO,

lil baggage =)

Grief....

Hi guys...we have reply most of the emails back to u already...hope it helps too!!!

I got an email from "M"(identity has been protected)...

Q: 'Help! I'll never get over mum's death...'

My mum died of cancer 5 yrs ago and i miss her so much. I can't seem to pull myself together and nothing makes me happy anymore. Life has no meaning without her-how can i get thru this?

A: Firstly i would like to say im sorry hearing about the death of your mum, i can relate how sad are you...i lost my grandparents too and its saddening to feel this way..Losing a parent is one of the hardest things to go thru in life, bringing a deep sense of sadness and fear. Grief can take a long time to work itself thru, but if after 5 yrs there has been little improvement in how u feel, i did read up a little...u might be suffering from 'complicated bereavement reaction'. Unlike the healing process of normal bereavement-which, although painful, can be helpful in terms of allowing u to cope with your loss.
-complicated bereavement is unhelpful and can be destructive, stopping you from enjoying a normal life.It's as if the grief u feel is frozen in time.
There are people who can help, could ask a doctor to refer u to a therapist or specialist counsellor to discuss your unresolved grief..People who have good social support cope better with loss, make a point of talking about your feelings with your loved ones, no matter how painful this may seem.
I thank u for writing in and for helping to share with us your problem which might be ableto help some of our readers who are facing similar problems and its good to know that u're willing to step out and fix this, i hope u will feel better after sharing this ...and i wish u all the best!!

Next up: A little guide on "how to end a relationship the right way"...stay tune for the next updates!!! keep your mails coming in....!!! we'll be glad to help!!

XOXO,
lil baggage.

We are baccccckkkk!!!!!

Hi peeps!!! Thanks for supporting us for these years...we have shifted here (u knw, sometimes u will feel better throwing away the old baggage and n the feeling of a heavy heart is gone...lol) and yes we will be answering questions and problems and try to help u guys again!!! yay!!
It will still be the same definitely...we will try to reply all emails asap and also will post some of it on the blog to help some similar cases too...

For people who don't know who are we and are new...here's a lil introduction on how this works...

This is kinda like an aunt agony thing BUT more of a seeking opinion from as well, we welcome any questions as long as its not over the board...and we are doing it voluntarily because we have been thru some hard times whether at work, family, friends, relationships, fustrated etc etc...so we understand hope to comfort or help and give opinions to others as well...

How it works:

• 
  
  write whatever questions/problems and send it to our email at: lilbaggage@gmail.com , pls include your age, gender, name/nick. (we welcome anyone to write in...)
  


• we will reply asap or post it in our blog to share it with others too (u might be able to help some other people as well..)

SEE!!! As simple as that...but pls do know that we would be posting some of your questions/problems out so u must feel ok to let people know your problems as well but pls be ensure that identity will be covered =)

Oh...and lastly before we forgot...we are not professional help...but if u choose to seek help from us 1st, depending on how serious it is, we would advise u to seek professional help if necessary...

Cheers to the joy of helping people!!!

XOXO,
lil baggage... =)