Grief....

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I got an email from "M"(identity has been protected)...

Q: 'Help! I'll never get over mum's death...'

My mum died of cancer 5 yrs ago and i miss her so much. I can't seem to pull myself together and nothing makes me happy anymore. Life has no meaning without her-how can i get thru this?

A: Firstly i would like to say im sorry hearing about the death of your mum, i can relate how sad are you...i lost my grandparents too and its saddening to feel this way..Losing a parent is one of the hardest things to go thru in life, bringing a deep sense of sadness and fear. Grief can take a long time to work itself thru, but if after 5 yrs there has been little improvement in how u feel, i did read up a little...u might be suffering from 'complicated bereavement reaction'. Unlike the healing process of normal bereavement-which, although painful, can be helpful in terms of allowing u to cope with your loss.
-complicated bereavement is unhelpful and can be destructive, stopping you from enjoying a normal life.It's as if the grief u feel is frozen in time.
There are people who can help, could ask a doctor to refer u to a therapist or specialist counsellor to discuss your unresolved grief..People who have good social support cope better with loss, make a point of talking about your feelings with your loved ones, no matter how painful this may seem.
I thank u for writing in and for helping to share with us your problem which might be ableto help some of our readers who are facing similar problems and its good to know that u're willing to step out and fix this, i hope u will feel better after sharing this ...and i wish u all the best!!

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XOXO,
lil baggage.